It takes my girlfriend forever to orgasm. Do girls and guys differ? Or am I doing something wrong?

Girls can come as fast as guys when they masturbate. But during lovemaking they often need more time. When a girl masturbates she stimulates herself and knows exactly what she is doing. During sex she’s often dependant on her boyfriend. If she doesn’t tell him what she likes or dislikes it can take her quite a while to get excited. But even if she gives him instructions, there’s a difference between her own actions and his. If she for instance masturbates by water massage it can be hard to get adjusted to a tongue or fingers. Guys normally don’t have this problem. What they do when they jerk-off often resembles what the girl does during a hand job. And during intercourse the penis is maximally- stimulated, which makes it easy to come. Sometimes girls feel pressured to orgasm, which makes it hard to come. It’s also possible that your girlfriend has a hard time with the solo-phase. But there are also girls who have a hard time coming, both during masturbating and during lovemaking. You could ask your girlfriend what she would like you to do. Using a vibrator may also help. Most girls come faster that way. But it’s also possible for her to take a more active role, taking responsibility for her own orgasm.