Talk in advance.
Talk about what you want and don’t want. Do you want to do it naked or partly clothed? Is it to relax or is it a prelude to sex? Will you take turns or just take one role this time? Are there places you don’t want to be touched?
Make sure you have enough privacy, being able to lock the door if there are other people in the house.
Your hands and the massage oil should be warm enough. You can place the bottle of massage oil in a bowl of warm water, letting it heat up a little. Never put it directly on your lover’s body, but pour it in your hand and rub your hands together.
Tune in to your partner’s reactions and ask for feedback. Get to know your lover’s body, knowing how firm you should stroke it and which strokes to use at the different body parts.
Keep your back straight and use your body weight to apply pressure.
Imagine love and acceptance running through your fingers into your lover’s body.